Chicken Fried!

Had lunch with my boss last wednesday at chef n brew. It's been awhile since I've had lunch with him, but its always refreshing talking casually with him. Alittle bit of history, before I was working under him, we occasionally talk about music and band stuff and eventually we did practice together on a couple of songs. So I kinda know how he is like and usually, the music people are on the same kinda wavelength... You know, talking about making it big in the industry, gaining fame, how fucked up a musician can be or how great a musician can be... You know, its always refreshing to talk about these things with a more experienced person.

More often than not, he'd ask me to pursue something I like and quit the company.. (Obviously if the thing that I like brings me the money). He's released an album, got his songs on the charts, got reviewed, He's earned his 15 minutes of fame and he's enjoyed and that's all that he wants. Its been 10 years since he tried to break into the industry, and so far, he's totally happy about where he's at.

He told me that "you know... I don't wanna have regrets in my life... When I'm 50, I wanna be telling my kids, I've bought my lottery ticket and I've hit my jackpot already and I'm happy now. It may not be the biggest thing but its something I'm gonna be proud of myself... and when its time, there should be a time where they'd buy their own lottery tickets and earn their jackpot."

Like each and everyone of us... "I've always dreamt that by the age of 30 I'll drive a ferrari at least, but I'm already mid 30s and its the reality we're talking about. I should have played down my game and instead of earning lots of money my dream should be to at least sleep with girls from as many different nationalities as possible." He was joking of course, as he shared with another colleague, I asked him, "how did the other colleague responded? (I was thinking the other colleague would probably be somehow appalled)"

"I think you're too greedy, I'd settle down when I'm done with South East Asia"

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I guess the bond between me and my father hasn't grown any closer. Well I think it's very much of a guy thing. We were closer when I was younger but as we grow I guess the interests were different though we do share a few same things, but that's about it. It was easier when I was younger, we were more of listeners than speakers and we'd be easily pleased.

My dad's a man of a little words. My mom once tolds me: don't be like your dad... You should know how to talk your way through with a girl, your dad can be boring.

Well as we grew, we talk lesser. Just like my grandad, he's more of a doer than a talker. So one of the ways to bond is to assist him in his work or the things he like to do. He's not a business man where I talk about work with him, nor is he the cool dad who does the things young people do. My dad pays alot of attention on his cars and his sound systems. I guess that's how I try to strike a conversation with him. Just thought of writing this cos I broke the door handle of my car, and usually, my dad's sort of a problem solver. The ultimate DIY guy.

He'd take his tool box and start fixing things. So you know, it's one of the things where I either just let him do his things or learn the craft, which is how the traditional father and son bond with each other. Well I do hope I'd be as good as he is, he could fix one thing using other approach when the guy at the workshop can't. And that, definitely saves alot of money and of course, bonding.

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I've never really like country songs, but this particular verse by Zach brown band's kinda awesome. Very well written verse; soothing, convincing and catchy - sans the country tune

And its funny how it`s the little things in life that mean the most

Not where you live what you drive or the price tag on your clothes

There`s no dollar sign on a piece of mind; this i`ve come to know

So if you agree have a drink with me

Raise your glasses for a toast

Cold beer on a friday night

A pair of jeans that fit just right

And the radio up

Well i`ve seen the sunrise

See the love in my woman`s eyes

Feel the touch of a precious child

And know a mother`s love

no, you hang up..

It was a great night last night, we've decided to end a tuesday night on the couch watching a DVD I recommended, called Prime. The movie starred Uma Thurman and Bryan Greenberg. Somewhere around my blog, I think I've written a few times about this movie. Its an awesome movie which I watched about hmmm... 5 years ago?

It never really occured to me before, but this is the first time... I'm the kind of person who watches a movie and you know, if I really like it then I'd watch and think of it at the same time, and probably after the movie too... ahh.. but I digress. Ok back to the story, Its a movie about a 37 year old lady who falls for a 23 year old guy. The catch of the movie is, the lady is in a dilemma from a recent dilemma and also about meeting and dating a guy who's 14 years younger than her, and she's seeing a therapist whom she'd later find out that she is his mother. As the story progresses, we see his mother objecting what he was doing, and he would obviously rebel against her.

5 years back when I watched this movie, I thought, "look, there's no point directing your son what to do in his life anymore, and serve you right, you're a professional, but you're not giving your son the advices you give to your patients, so now you see your son dating your much older patient and you're upset!" I thought, what's wrong with dating her? His mom said in the end you'll end up hurting each other.

Now 5 years down the road, 11th May to be exact, when I watched it again... I had a different thought. I thought... "hmmm... at the end of the day, a mother just knows everything, and whatever she said to you is right." Well, my point is, its not about going out with an older girl or anything, but when your mom tells you to do something or not, she is always right about it, and that's why she tells you".

Sometimes, its just so simple but we grow up and we lose track abit and think highly of ourselves and stop taking advices from our loved ones. Well I'd never thought I'd look at the same movie in a different way 5 years after watching it for the first time. I guess in a way, I've grown, and I hope I did.

It feels weird, but kinda refreshing when you realize things like that, when you start interpreting things differently from how you will back then. Its weird, but its good.

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